My husband preached a message a couple of times in my hearing....that's the benefit of being the wife of a preacher man...get to hear the sermon more than once! Sometimes you need to hear a thing more than once for it to sink in.
In the sermon he talks abut the over 400 men in the Bible and how only 80 finished well. He cites 5 traits that these men had in common. Since he is heading toward retirement age this is impacting his thinking. To make sure one finishes well. What does one need. Here is the list of 5 qualities that the 80 who finished well all had:
1. Intimacy with God
2. Willingness to seek counsel from others
4. Obedience to God
5. Faith to Believe
That is quite a list. Each one could be a sermon in and of itself. But that is not what I want to do here. I want to only talk about one which I have noticed is decidedly missing in my home culture and also in my host culture. WILLINGNESS TO SEEK COUNSEL FROM OTHERS.
We, as individuals, seem to want to live independently, to not have anyone tell us what to do. We think we don't 'need' anyone. We know what's best. Even when we don't we just struggle on alone, because we are afraid of what someone will tell us. I think that #2 is hard because we lack #3. It takes humidity to go to someone and seek counsel, or to receive unsolicited counsel as well.
If I knew that my success, my ability to finish well, was directly proportionate to these things, maybe I would be willing to do them. When I was raising my kids I strongly believed it 'took a village to raise them', why do I now think I can go it alone? We need community, we need each other. God designed us for relationship, for intimacy.
Who speaks into your life?