|with friends celebrating a wedding|
I have long ago decided not to treat people like 'projects', where I have certain outcomes in mind for them, and my willingness to 'like' them, or engage with them, is conditioned on a response to these goals on their part. I can distinctly remember telling someone that I still wanted to be his friend, EVEN if we didn't agree on a lot of stuff (Chihuahua). One of my biggest complements happened when he was standing in his front yard, holding a 1 litre beer bottle, and he didn't hide it when he saw me coming! Why would this be a complement? He knew that I don't drink, but he also knew that I accepted him, and didn't judge him based on whether he drank or not. I could accept him as he was, independent of whether I approved or participated in a similar activity or not.
|with friends in Queretaro|
-submitted by Ernie Koop