Wednesday, 7 March 2018

Cultural Differences

I am constantly amazed when living abroad.  I have lived in Latin America on and off for years.  I have live in Mexico for many of them.  But yet I often experience, or maybe rather notice, something new.

This weekend I went to a baby shower for my friend's upcoming grandchild.  Baby shower's are not something new for me; I have attended many.

My first observation about baby showers here was that I often got invited to them, when I did not even know the mother, sometimes never having even met her.

But, what I observed this time was that they have a baby shower for every child a mother has: first, second, third, etc.  We often only throw a shower for a first baby.

The next thing was that often the mother, or mother-in-law, hosts the baby shower for her grandchild.  I can't say that that is something we do in Manitoba.

They also go all out.  The place is all decorated; that's normal.  They serve a meal; not common in Canada.  We would more often have snacks.  They have a lovely, decorated dessert table, regardless if it is breakfast, lunch or supper.  They give party favours to all the guests.

My neighbour ladies who attended the shower
Standing is Tina, is the mother-in-law who hosted and her the very pregnant daughter-in-law
Lastly, they always know the gender of the child and have chosen a name.  I don't think that is common back home although maybe now it is.  In my day we wanted it to be a surprise and had names chosen for either gender.

This shower was hosted by my friend Tina, for her grandchild.  It is this couple's third child, all boys.  The child's name will be Iker. I had met the mother on a few occasions as I have attended some family events they have thrown.

It was a lovely morning.

On that same day, but in the evening, we attended a Quinceñera for our friends' 15 year old daughter.  We have attended many of these over the years.

A Quinceñera is the birthday thrown for a 15 year old daughter - it is a 'right of passage'.  A little like 'sweet sixteen' although much more significant (or a guy back in Canada getting his drivers licence).
Diane, Ernie, quinceañera en blue, her mother in pink, and the 'padrinos' - dad was busy when we took the pic
They usually thrown a huge party, often going into debt or saving for quite some time, in order to host it.  Depends of the economic situation of the family.

We have attended very elaborate ones and simple ones.

When I am at one of these, and I see a younger girl, I will often ask them if they want a big party like that.  I get varying responses, some say no, they would rather want a trip.  Some say yes, and then there are those that say they want both!

What I noticed this time around is that 15 is young.  She is a young lady but emphasis on young.

I noticed at this party that the young lady is highlighted in various ways.  She dances with her father and her God (padrino) Father.  Then she often preforms something.  I was at one where the young girl did aerial silk.  It was amazing.  This particular event the young lady danced with 3 professional male dancers.

This is what struck me, the way they danced.  The young men were older then her and you could tell they had practiced quite a bit.  Then they put her on a chair and danced for her!

 I thought it was maybe a little bit to much for a 15 year old girl, whereas everyone thought it was great!


But, a bit later, she danced with her father, her god father, and three other men.  They also had prepared this.  That was fun, but also something I can't see happening with my people back home but maybe it does happen...

Another thing I noticed again was how formal these things are and how Mexicans love to dress up.  I compare that to how informal we seem to have gotten back home.  I was shocked last time I was home to see people in shorts and flip flops at a wedding! NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER, WOULD THAT HAPPEN IN MEXICO!

I have come to appreciate their love for formal events and their love of getting all dolled up.  The women often get their hair done and their make up professionally done.  Everyone always looks stunning.  Even the young people are all done up. Changes how people act.  It's nice.

So, we continue to learn and grow here.  We love so much about Mexico and its culture.  We will miss it tremendously.  









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